Perhaps I am a little egotistical. The opposite sex has always held me to a higher standard of how I should be treated and what I deserve. I have not ever been a woman to need to play the games and chase after a male. In fact, I won’t..my self-esteem is far too high. In high school, of course I played the mind games and things; I was a child. But even then, I like to believe that I played the immature games only up to a certain point. I have outgrown that.
But, males no longer hold me to that “high standard.” I have realized that before, I was very confident and sure of myself…and it showed with every thing I did/said. I am no longer that way…I have to find my “cockiness” again.
Why does the one person that you are asking to work WITH you never believe that you will take negative action, forcing you to prove what you said would happen (especially if they vocally acknowledge but physically refuse to make the effort in order to help make things better)? As children, many are warned that they will be spanked if they do not obey their parents/parental figures. A lot of children refuse to obey, knowing that the parent is simply using a “scare tactic” to make them behave the way that is desired from the other.
Relationships (of any kind) always end up going back to the “high school” mentality when an argument arises. The measure of maturity is how we choose to handle this argument; do you want to go back to “well, you said/did this first” or would you rather adhere to the rational way and admit your own fault in the argument without blaming the other person or something/someone else for your actions (or lack thereof). In life, it is our choice of how to handle things that makes us adults. Another person can not make you feel guilty, it is an emotional mind game and age does not matter; guilt will grow with you.
That is, unless the guilt you feel is unfounded and just a silly teenage game someone plays to force you into feeling shameful for something that you need not feel at fault. The true test of becoming an adult is whether you will play the silly mind/emotional games you did as a child/teenager.